An ideal mate should come after you think about yourself first. The goal of reaching perfection is important. To get an ideal partner is to connect yourself to the object world, so having an ideal partner depends upon whether I can be a perfect subject. So, the precondition you must accomplish is self perfection. Do you follow? When you reach adolescence, you want to love the other sex, but before you do, you must have set the condition to love your parents more. If you are a pious son or daughter, then you are able to have a relationship with God. This is the principle of Heaven. It is the Principle of Creation. So, before you think of your ideal partner, you yourself must be a filial and pious child to your parents up to the point that you are so connected in heart that your parents can announce this in public. To do so, you must unite with your parents. To be pious, you should be united with your brothers and sisters. In your own family, there must be the word that you are a true and good example. With this in mind, we should concentrate on perfecting ourselves first. Then you can begin to think of gaining an ideal partner. (100-149)

You are then in a serious situation, do you understand? Even though you are a grown man, you still chase women's bottoms.... There are many women and also many men out there. A man can, without knowing it, fall in love with a girl and be controlled by her, even to death. This kind of man becomes useless, destroyed and finished. In doing this, he later becomes like a trash can. Teacher knows this very well, even though I have never been in such a situation. I have seen many things. To men, women are the enemies. To women, men are the enemies. You should be cool and ruthless, for the sake of your path. You must invest all your energy to have the right foundation; then you men can have your wife, and you women can attend your husband. It is a serious matter: you only have one life. It will be a big disaster once you go the wrong way. (120-329)