So is it between friends. When you visit a friend who is unfriendly and inaccessible, you cannot feel at ease. You would feel awkward. You can feel at ease only in the case that you have strong emotional ties between friends so that you can interfere in your friend's matter freely, and your friend can step into your personal life as well. In order to form such strong ties with your friends, you should be tied to them by emotional affection. Then all external matters would be solved. The crucial point is to have strong affectionate ties. (33-133)

We often hear people ask a friend whether something interests him. What do they mean? They ask you whether that thing is something your heart or your mind would be pleased by. You should know that in the word, "pleasure" there must be a certain internal connection of the heart. (91-10)

When you need a friend, you want a friend who can shed tears. Yet you would not want so indecent a man who does nothing but weep all day, but want a friend who can shed tears but, on the other hand, has lots of laughter as well. It is not good to make a wry face at all times. Even in a deep grief-stricken situation you should be able to find an overflowing joy. Who can be qualified for the blessing of happiness? Anyone who is crying sorrowfully for another who is overwhelmed with grief is the one being blessed. It is at the place where you want to stay forever that the blessing would call. Does this make sense? (36-109)