From what can we draw a definition about a good person? The question is who will be good person and who has a right for decision-making in your family. It is more valuable to decide something good or bad from the public position on behalf of the other.

You may have beautiful eyes, a good looking nose and mouth; but what if your one finger would be somewhat abnormal? You might want to hide it, and don't feel like bragging about it. What does that mean? It means that something to represent the whole should be the thing to gain public approval. That is the Principle. We call something good when it gains public approval for representing the whole, the perfect foundation, so we can be proud of it.

From this point of view, you may insist that you should be the best child in your family, being supported by your parents. But your sister may not agree with you, saying, "You are a grumbler, you are a greedy guy." In order for you to be accepted as the best person, you should throw away your own insistence and then be able to draw approval of the whole family.

Then, how should you try to be such a good person among the family members? For you to make it, you should have a higher level of standard. Otherwise, you could not get the unanimous approval. Then, what is the foundation from which you can get the approval? That's the question. (105-89)