What are brothers? They are the persons who share the same love of parents. Then, can they fight each other? They are not supposed to do so. When I asked my daughter, Sun Jin, "Whose feet are these?" she answered that the right foot was her father's and the left was her mother's. She was really right. Why is it so? Because of love. (106-80)

When you talk about brotherly love, what is that for? It means that you ought to broaden the foundation of love beyond yourselves. Namely, it means to broaden and multiply your relationship. Love of humanity! But does the phrase "centered on life" make sense? There isn't any such phrase; rather something like "life of humanity," right?

So, the starting point of all, the origin, should be the thing everyone likes. The core of the purpose of existence of something should be the thing from which everyone can draw the same end and conclusion. But with only such a life, we can't make it. (188-195)

Women in the neighborhood dislike the man who doesn't love his family, and villagers don't like the person who hasn't been given any love by his parents and brothers and sisters.

The person whom his brothers and sisters would welcome is not the one who thinks and acts centered only on himself, but the one who does so for the sake of the whole family. Is it right or wrong? It means that you have to go the opposite way. In other words, if you make up your mind that if you would take, wear and live in bad things, others will like you. (120-112)

You have some people around you who are older or younger than you. You ought to be someone who is the center or the standard among people. You can know the principle of how to become so without being taught. That's why you need to listen to what your parents say and to follow the way of a spouse, and also to love your brothers and sisters. Everybody knows this principle, but you haven't understood what it means until the dispensation through the Unification Church. (123-134)

Children who are growing up under their parents' wings have differing characteristics. Even in your family, right? In spite of their various characteristics, the reason that they may insist on something is because they are rooted in the love of parents. So the older brother or sister cannot neglect the youngest brother or sister's insistence. Why can't they do so? It's just because the youngest's insistence is centered on the parent's love. No matter how young he or she may be, because all of them have the same value from the viewpoint of parents' love, the others should accept the youngest's insistence. So a good family life means that such an insistence is welcome. The problem is that the insistence won't be accepted in a relationship where they haven't become one with their parents.

What would happen in such an inharmonious relationship? Brothers and sisters may be different from each other in their will, but they shouldn't be different from their parents' will. The will of the brother and sister should be connected to that of their parents. They can keep their authority when they discuss their will on such a foundation. When the older brother or sister insists on something through the foundation which parents can accept, he or she comes to hold authority on behalf of the parents. You ought to stand by your opinion on the base of this foundation.

Even though one is younger, he can have the same position as parents have if he asserts himself on the foundation where he is one with his parents' love. It means that he has the right to participate in the same range as the parent's position. When he is in the place of the object centered on love, all the authority of the parents is involved there. Namely the inheritance is involved. When one holds the same standard and opinion that the parents have, then he can stand together with his parents and can have the inheritance. That is a surprising fact. (170-64)

You see a child growing up. What do you think he is following? He grows up following his parents' love. "Here is father's love, mother's love; I like it." They find that parents' love is connected not only to them but also to the society, the nation, the world, and the heavenly world.

When a woman goes up to this position and a man goes to that position, then they think, "Which way can my father and mother come up?" That's how they follow their parents. Also, they may wonder how man and woman can live together although they are so different. Thus, they learn how their parents have lived.

Everybody, do you like your mother and father? [Yes] You may wish to live with your parents but not together with your brothers and sisters, right? (Laughter) You may insist on yourself only. Do you really want to live together with your father and mother or together with all your brothers and sisters? Which one do you like?

Why are there brothers and sisters with you? The reason why you need brothers and sisters is that through them you can come to understand how your mother and father were growing up, seeing how your brothers and sisters are growing up. You have to know that that is brotherhood. You are to grow up like that and then become one with each other.

Then, do you have to love your brothers and sisters, or don't you have to? [We have to love them.] Why do you have to do so? It has something to do with the past, when your parents were growing up. If you should go to the spiritual world, do you think it's possible to see and meet your father and mother at their younger age? [It's possible] Well, you are a grown-up there, then you might meet your mother when she was three years old. Then, will you kick her away? Or will you make a bow to her? [We will make a bow] Maybe, a baby doesn't know what a bow is. (Laughter) What will you let the baby do?

You have to learn how to love your little mom as you love your brother, your father and mother. You cannot love them without learning how to love her. Then you shall love your brothers and sisters, thinking of them as your mother and father in their younger age so that you can love your father and mother if you encounter them at any age in the spiritual world. In order for you to be a person who can love your little mother and father, you need your brothers and sisters. Do you understand that?

A father and mother have several children. Then, is it good that those children love each other more than their parents? [Yes] Why should they do so? It is to establish the condition that the children can love their father and mother from birth to death by loving their parents as young figures, which is shown through their brothers and sisters.

The mother comes to learn how her husband had been growing up through watching her son growing up. To love her son makes a condition so she can love her husband as he was before marriage. The husband understands through his daughter's growth how his wife had been growing up. So he can establish the condition to love the whole life of his wife.

Parents love their sons and daughters without any distinction. It is to realize an all-round love in a family where you have brothers and sisters. How wonderful and surprising it is!

A father and mother want to treat their children equally. You should know this. That's what a parent's heart is. You understand what I am saying? [Yes] To hate your brothers and sisters is a more serious sin than to hate your mother. That's the conclusion. This is the most important in family education. (184-60)

The closer you become one to parental love, the more harmonious your life becomes. That's very logical. Why should you become one with your brothers and sisters? From the fact that your mother and father, a man and woman, become one, we know that brothers and sisters should become one. That's how the public law of the universe is made up. Do you feel good when you fight your brother or sister? [No, we don't.] Then, what is it that makes you feel sad? [It's the natural law of the universe] You may know about air pressure, but not about the law of the universe. In the same manner, people are dominated by the power of the universe.

For this reason, people are destined to make this vertical relationship, and in order to make this relationship, we say, Love your parents. It doesn't mean to only love your father or love your mother but love your parents! It is plural. When we say, "Love your brothers and sisters," the term of brothers and sisters is not the singular but the plural. Why is it plural? It is because of the concept that love originates from the plural. You do understand what I am saying? [Yes.]

Then, are you supposed to fight with your brothers and sisters? [No, we aren't]. Are you to do so with your parents? [No.] So this vertical relationship is absolute. No one can overturn it. Nowadays, the young people say that there is no need of a vertical relationship, but I think that what is not needed is the one who says that the relationship is not needed. (104-127)

When brothers and sisters fight with each other in your family, how do your parents feel? It is just as if you hit your parents with a bat. If you would fight with each other so often, would your parents want to live longer or die earlier? [They would die earlier.] Would they be happy or unhappy? [They would be unhappy.] So you should know the following point--that your neglect of your brother may lead to the unhappiness of your parents and the whole family.

If one of your brothers or sisters does wrong, all the rest of the brothers and sisters should cure him of his wrongdoing, centering on the love of parents. Well, how wonderful the family is! They may think in their heart that the mother and father are like God for the descendants. Thus, if they love each other for the sake of others, then God will be together with the family and the children of the family will be in the position which represents God. (184-63)